Embracing Emotional Intelligence: Unlocking Business Success and Personal Growth

Can emotional intelligence be the key to unlocking your business potential? Join me and Micaela Passeri, an award-winning emotional intelligence and business performance coach, to explore her incredible journey from founding the Love You Revolution clothing line to becoming a transformative coach. Micaela shares how her clients' struggles with feelings of inauthenticity while wearing her affirmation-filled clothing led her to develop powerful coaching techniques focused on self-acceptance and emotional intelligence. We delve into the profound impact of emotional intelligence in the workplace, examining how it enhances productivity, confidence, and communication, ultimately leading to greater financial success and business growth.

Discover the secrets to achieving personal and professional breakthroughs as Micaela provides valuable insights into the importance of self-belief, strategy, and emotional intelligence. Learn how a lack of clear strategy can hinder entrepreneurial progress and how past experiences and traumas shape one’s drive and success. This episode highlights the significance of unlearning conditioned behaviors and the essential role coaching plays in helping individuals overcome limitations. Whether you're an entrepreneur looking to unlock financial abundance or someone seeking personal growth, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom on harnessing the power of emotional intelligence.

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Micaela Passeri
https://loveyourevolution.com
Facebook: @realmicaelapasseri
Email: hello@loveyourevolution.com
Your Amazing Itty Bitty Affirmations Book: 15 Ways to Make Empowering Messages Work for You:  https://a.co/d/bXjDY4d

Music clip by The Beach Boys, "Good Vibrations"

Chapters

• 0:00 Strategic Emotional Intelligence for Success
• 8:38 Unconscious Blocks and Success Strategies
• 24:24 Navigating Fear and Growth Opportunities

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

You cannot go anywhere unless you apply strategy, and I see a lot of entrepreneurs just throw spaghetti at the wall and say, okay, let's do six today, and then, five years down the road, they're still throwing spaghetti and seeing what sticks. And the reason is they haven't applied strategy. And so when these big people, we see, these mega millions, I guarantee you they're applying very specific strategy.

Speaker 2: 0:37

Hello and welcome to the podcast Emotional Intelligence your greatest asset and key to success. I'm your host, dr Jamie Carlaccio, coming to you from the greater New Haven, connecticut area, as a positive intelligence, or PQ, coach. I'm committed to helping people develop both emotional intelligence and mental fitness. That is, you'll come to regard problems as situations that help you learn and grow. Pq is a way of being and doing in the world that enables you to develop and sustain a positive relationship with yourself and others, at home, at work and everywhere in between. Please subscribe to this podcast and tap the like button so more people can enjoy the benefits of PQ. And now here's the show.

Speaker 3: 1:20

Hello everybody and welcome to the podcast Emotional Intelligence, and I am so glad you're here. I have an awesome guest with me today. Her name is Michaela Passeri and, if you can't tell, by the way, I pronounce that she is Italian and she has dual citizenship, in the US and in Europe, and we're going to talk a little bit about what happens when major shifts come in your life and what happens when you develop something called the love you revolution, and what happens when you discover the value of having emotional intelligence in the workplace. I know that for most people, they would dearly love to see that everywhere they work, and if you've paid any attention to any of the conversations in the news or online, you know that that's a big thing for people right now. So I'm excited to talk to you about that, michaela.

Speaker 3: 2:14

But first let me give you a few interesting tidbits about her. So she is a USA and European-based award-winning emotional intelligence and business performance coach. She's a best-selling author, international speaker, community leader and founder of the Emotional Money Mastery Business Training Program and the Love your Evolution Retreat in Italy. With over 20 years of experience building six seven figure businesses, micaela puts her business degree, her experience and her many certifications to use, helping entrepreneurs fully unlock their financial abundance with strategic monetization and sales structure implementation. That's a mouthful, but I'm sure it's awesome. She uses her proprietary technique of marrying business ROI planning with emotional subconscious release. This is a big one. We should definitely touch on that some more Emotional subconscious release. We're giving them the fundamental tools of emotional intelligence so that they perform efficiently, increase their confidence, stand in their clarity and have better communication and increase productivity and product profitability.

Speaker 3: 3:32

And I noticed I was sitting up straight just reading that because it sounds so important and I felt like, oh yeah, that's exactly what we need. We need to stand in our power. So she firmly believes that business success is directly tied to an individual's ability to free him or herself from the emotional ties of the past, and anyone who's listened to any of these podcasts knows I talk a lot about trauma and how that affects our decisions. It affects how we show up in the world every day, how we show up to ourself and others, and so your emotional intelligence level and your ability to manage all of these emotions in all areas of life is a predictor of your income, your success and your expansion. And so Michaela is an expert on that and she tells, she shows people how to, how to sort of get rid of all that baggage and live into that success that you already are and were meant to be.

Speaker 3: 4:31

Her work has helped hundreds of clients boost their self-confidence, tap into their wisdom, increase their productivity, banish anxiety yay and the demotivation and the crippled momentum. And she helps people cure that business stagnation and monetize their business to six figures and beyond. And she's also the Global Woman Club Director for LA and she sits on the board of the Ocean Conservancy, dana Blue, so welcome. Thank you so much for being here with us today. How are you doing?

Speaker 1: 5:04

I'm doing very well. Thank you so much for being here with us today. How are you doing? I'm doing very well. Thank you so much.

Speaker 3: 5:15

Good, I'm glad. So I am interested in learning a little bit about how you came to the. Love you revolution. And then I want to find out more about how you help businesses and people in general in the workplace develop the kind of emotional intelligence that kind of catapults them into success beyond their wildest dreams.

Speaker 1: 5:31

Yeah, yes, and I know we have a limited amount of time because we could be talking about this for like hours. So well, first I'll start. You know, love you Revolution was actually a clothing line that I started. When was it? Probably 2006 time, 2005, 2006 time, and it was really a. It was birthed out of my own journey in search to love myself, and what happened is, as I was writing the messages that I then would put on the clothes, I found that a lot of my clients would buy my things and then wouldn't be able to wear them.

Speaker 1: 6:21

One of my I'll tell you why in a moment yeah, a signature messages was I love who I am, and so I sold I don't know how many I love who I am t-shirts. But I would get often women calling me back and say you know, I love your stuff, I love my shirt, but it's been sitting on my bedside table for two weeks and I can't wear it. And so I would then start asking the cable, why like what? Why don't you? Why can't you wear it? What is this about? And so we'd engage in this very deep, profound conversation about how they felt like a fraud. The message, the t-shirt had them realize that they needed to do some work and they wouldn't wear it because they felt they were fraudulent, but they did so.

Speaker 1: 7:23

As I continued to do that work and, you know, put more and more messages out there it just naturally brought me to coaching, because I found myself coaching my clients that would buy my shirts and not wear them into finding their own path and their kind of journey back to themselves, which is what I was doing at that time. I was on that journey at that point, so really, the clothing line love you revolution was a catalyst for my own growth, but then it's what brought me to then become a coach and, you know, do the work that I do now. Yeah, so I want to pick up on a couple of things you said you know, do the work that I do now?

Speaker 3: 8:05

Yeah, so I want to pick up on a couple of things you said. You know you started writing these things on clothing and I know you have a little book of affirmations, which I think is feel affirmed, and that we all have bad days, or we all have days we don't like ourselves, or we don't like something we've done, or we get hurt feelings. So I do think that affirmations are great. I'm wondering, when you say you wrote those on your clothes, did you ever wonder, was there ever a time when you couldn't have worn that clothing? You know you're saying that some of the women would buy them and then they wouldn't wear it. Did you ever find like, oh, I could never wear that, I love myself, or whatever?

Speaker 1: 8:57

no, I never felt that way. I knew that I. I knew that there was a part of myself that didn't, that I wasn't fully loving myself, but I never felt that I couldn't wear the message.

Speaker 3: 9:11

Okay.

Speaker 1: 9:11

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 9:12

So tell me more about that. How do you go from sort of I don't really love myself, but I can wear this clothing? Were you sort of living into it?

Speaker 1: 9:21

Yeah, I was doing the work. You know I was doing the work and I didn't. I didn't feel that wearing the shirt was so the way that I was. You have to think about it. I was creating the shirt, I was writing a message, I was producing, so my view on the line was way different than the end consumer. Yeah, I think that just the fact that I was using my creativity to create it already put me in a different perspective.

Speaker 1: 9:54

Yeah, think about then wearing the things that I was creating, but someone who wasn't doing that and was just receiving the message and viewing it. They have a whole different perspective and view on the message and on the piece of clothing itself. So I think I'm not really a good example for whether or not you know what I'm saying, because it was part of my process, it was part of my catharsis, but I do want to say that, yes, we affirm all the time. We're affirming 24 hours a day, seven days a week, you know, for the length of our life, and so what we want to think about is what are we affirming? I'm not good enough.

Speaker 1: 10:36

I'm not lovable, you know. Are we affirming, you know, feelings of inadequacy, um, are we affirming, you know, negative self-talk and beating ourselves up? What are we affirming? And so the t-shirt was a way to help women navigate themselves back to positive self-talk, because I know we are experts in the self-beat up and the negative self-talk, so it was a tool to help women get there Right and then eventually it it. It was a tool for me as well, um, but we're constantly, you know, constantly affirming and we want to focus on, we want to really think about what are we talking to ourselves every day? What are we saying to ourselves every day? Because we are, you know, on average 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts a day, and the majority of those thoughts are negative.

Speaker 3: 11:34

And they're also repetitive. So the 60,000 thoughts you did on Monday came back on Tuesday. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1: 11:42

So, um, so then, yeah. So then, as I kind of delved into that, I, um, I noticed what I had done for myself. Uh, you know, I noticed that I had raised my emotional intelligence throughout my journey and my work, I had raised my emotional vibration, and so I kind of focused in on a couple of modalities that I felt were straight to the point, that got me the results, that got me straight to the thing that was in my unconscious, in my subconscious, that I couldn't see, I couldn't put a finger on, that, I couldn't really get to on my own, and that's what I got certified in. And then that's what I use, and executives and people in office, all with the idea that they're looking to achieve something in their professional or business arena that they haven't been able to achieve yet.

Speaker 1: 13:03

And so then you've got to look at the leader of that business, the leader of that party, the leader of that department, right, and who is he or she right? What is he or she saying to themselves? What's their inner conversation? What is it that holds them back? What is it that has them take certain action and not other action? How are they disempowered? Because when we look at that, then we can help that leader right, that owner, that entrepreneur step into the next, better version of themselves and step into their full potential so that they can achieve the results that they want, whether they're monetary, whether they're, you know, just general goals, whether they're achievements, whatever it is right, whether they're relationship driven, health driven, it all starts with me. It all starts with the individual, with the person.

Speaker 3: 14:04

Absolutely. I was thinking too as you were talking. We have a lot of unconscious blocks, so oftentimes we don't even know the extent to which we've been blocked or we've been sabotaging ourselves or stepping in our own way. I know that for me.

Speaker 3: 14:26

I've been doing a lot of work on the shadow and if anyone knows anything about Jungian psychology, you know that that we all have a shadow self and it's it's more more important to embrace it than try to pretend it doesn't exist or to shove it away. But it's more like let's get to know you. Who are you? What have you been? What have you been telling me all my life? Maybe we can start having a different conversation. And what's interesting to me is there are a lot of people, if not everybody, who needs to do this kind of work, who would benefit from it, but some people have been successful despite it and some people have not been successful because of it. Do you hear that distinction I'm making? Yep, I know what you're talking about, so I'm interested in that and I'm just kind of musing out loud. I don't know if you have like a great answer to that, but just thinking about people who are wildly successful but are maybe tormented on the inside and maybe they don't sleep well at night, I don't know.

Speaker 1: 15:26

Yeah, yeah, I mean, it is a really hard question to answer because we could answer it in so many different ways. I do a lot of work around emotional frequency and vibration and consciousness level. When I work with my clients, I read their emotional vibration, can tell them where they are on their evolutionary stage, on their consciousness evolution, and so I get a similar question a lot, which is well so how can then you know, you know like the big mega conglomerate people make all that money? Yeah, and so my answer to that is number one we don't know them personally.

Speaker 3: 16:11

Right.

Speaker 1: 16:11

Number two they clearly believe in themselves and they clearly have positive you know beliefs around themselves and their capabilities. So that is part of what goes into our conditioning or unconditioning right and it's part of what drives us. And because there's a lot of different things that go into what we create and how we live our life and how we experience our life, there's just no right or wrong answer that is. The best answer that I have come up with is that they have, you know, come to believe certain things about themselves, such that they've arrived where they arrived and they've married that with strategy, because one of the things that I tell my clients is that you cannot go anywhere unless you apply strategy.

Speaker 1: 17:05

And I see a lot of entrepreneurs just throw spaghetti at the wall and say, okay, let's do six today, and then, five years down the road, they're still throwing spaghetti and seeing what sticks. And the reason is they haven't applied strategy. And so when these big people, we see, mega millions, I guarantee you they're applying very specific strategy. So it's a combination of a lot of different things, but strategy and self and belief in self and belief in capabilities is there.

Speaker 3: 17:39

So you know, we have a trauma response.

Speaker 1: 17:42

We can still have PTSD.

Speaker 3: 18:02

So, yeah, you and we have a judge and nine saboteurs that help that judge, and we have the hyperachiever. And so the hyperachiever is someone who needs to succeed, and sometimes people feel that their worth is measured in the size of their bank account or the number of their friends, or the whatever the big house, or the number of certificates on the wall or whatever the number of letters after their name, and so that often will fuel people into success without really thinking about why. Do you feel the need to do that Exactly? And is there something you're trying to prove to yourself, or you know something that happened in your life where you learned subconsciously this is what I have to do to be okay.

Speaker 1: 18:56

Yeah, and I also. I also believe that there's a greater plan. You know, if we look at history and we look at who have defined our history, not only in our culture but around the world those people were destined for that, and so I also believe that there's part of that, it's part of your soul signature, it's part of why you're on this planet and incarnate in that individual is that you're on that path to contribute to the world in a huge way. So there's some universal laws happening as well, you know.

Speaker 1: 19:35

Yeah, I mean I would agree, it's not a very clear answer.

Speaker 3: 19:41

No, and there are lots of schools of thought. Some people might not believe in the in the sole contract kind of thing. I happen to because I feel like I've had the experience of knowing where.

Speaker 3: 19:53

I've been and I'm getting as I get older. I wouldn't say this was even true five years ago, but as I've gotten older, I've noticed that everything that has happened to me is an accumulation of things that needed to happen in order for me to learn what I need to learn and maybe do what I need to do or be what I need to be. And so some of the what I would consider crappy experiences of my earlier life helped me and shaped me and gave me the tools I needed to develop in order to do the stuff I do now that I wouldn't have had otherwise. So it wasn't like, wow, great, yeah, I had this, you know traumatic experience, but oh yeah, so I have that. I'm not there anymore. I don't live in the jungle. The tiger is paper, it's not real. I'm an adult, I can defend myself and I don't have to take whatever's being dished out at me.

Speaker 3: 20:55

But if I hadn't had any of that, I wouldn't do the podcast, I wouldn't be an emotional intelligence coach. You know, I wouldn't have been. I wouldn't have met you on speakers uh's Playhouse, where we met and learned about your work, as you know, an emotional intelligence coach in the workplace. And also I just love the idea of the Love you Revolution and the idea of writing those things on shirts or wherever else you write them, maybe hats? Do you have any scarves?

Speaker 1: 21:34

I actually don't. It's been years. I've retired that. I gave it to my daughter. She hasn't done anything with it yet she's in school, but I'm hoping she will. So I haven't really done anything with the clothing line in a long time and I I pivoted to coaching and supporting people at a deeper level.

Speaker 1: 21:57

But you know, I I believe that, similar to you, that you know, we, we have a. We come with a purpose and we come with ways to achieve that purpose, and it's all a big conglomerate of lessons and challenges and pain and also joy. But whether or not somebody believes that there's a soul or not, the is that human beings grow based on the experiences that they have, and so nobody can really deny that right. And so when we take a look at that and we take a look at okay, so what did I make up about this experience and how is this experience leading, how did it lead into my future, which I'm experiencing now, and then connecting the dots and helping them create distance and a disconnection from whatever they made up and that experience and create a new, more empowering conversation. Yeah, that's what helps people move forward and create miracles in their life. And and I, I know I'm I'm living proof and my clients are living proof. So I I know what can happen when we do this really, really deep, deep work.

Speaker 1: 23:15

And some people are not ready for it, and that's okay, cause everybody's on their journey. Um, people are afraid of it, and so it takes them a little bit of time. Some people are ready. I was ready Like. I was like, whatever, I'll do everything. I went all the way for it. So, um, but yeah, it's, you know, uh, raising your own emotional intelligence is totally possible.

Speaker 1: 23:38

It is a skill that you have to work on because you have to undo your conditioning, so you have to condition yourself, and usually you can't do it on your own. You need someone who can go through the process, who can help you see what you can't see. Like, think about yourself as a fishbowl, and you've been sitting in the water of that fishbowl for 20, 30, 40, 50 years. You don't, you can't see that that water is murky, that that water is stale. You need a new bowl of water, and so then you need someone to pluck you out and put you into a new, into a new bowl. And that's what you know coaches do, that's what mentors do, that's what you know. This space is in. This work is for you know.

Speaker 3: 24:24

Yeah, and I was thinking as you were talking. It reminds me that that the only for me, the only way I could do this work is if I had walked through it and learned what I learned and develop the skills that I needed and gained the insights that I gained. And I was definitely not ready to do any of this in my 20s. I was still excuse my language batshit crazy, and I admitted I will own that one, and anyone who knows me and has known me that long will agree and that's okay. I finally came to the place of yeah, you're right, you were there and then you learned this thing, and now you're here. You were there and then you learned this thing, and now you're here.

Speaker 3: 25:08

And what I find to be true for me is when I bump up against a situation again that I thought that I was done with, I'm like, okay, afgo, another freaking growth opportunity. So maybe I have a little bit more to learn, but as long as I can keep it in, that it's an AFGO and not woe is me, and this is terrible. Sorry, I have a sciatica, so I just had a twitch there Then it's okay, right. It's like, yeah, this is it. Life is road bumps.

Speaker 1: 25:43

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And the key is to use your awareness so that, when you're aware that you're going down the downward spiral, you can catch yourself and then take a breath and shift. Yeah right, um, because it's easy to just get tagged and then it's easy to go down that, oh yes, that spiral of you know self beat up or negative thinking, or or even, you know, destructive behavior you know whether it's a type of behavior or whether it's abusive like verbally, mentally or physically Right?

Speaker 1: 26:17

So I was just on a on a summit a few weeks ago around narcissistic parental abuse. So it it, you know it, it will span the gamut, right. So we need to make, we need to really use our awareness awareness is key number one to shift ourselves and support ourselves in getting out of that potential even worse situation potential even worse situation.

Speaker 3: 26:52

Yeah, yeah, you know, we talked a lot about or at least the term has, I think, gained a lot of currency neuroplasticity. So our brains are malleable in so far as when you were saying, going down the rabbit hole, which is what I think of it, as we have that neural pathway where the judge and his buddies live, or her buddies, or whatever, and then if we can learn, oh whoops, that's my hyperachiever talking, or that's my people pleaser talking, or there's my victim at it again, you know, trying to give me, absolve me of any responsibility, but if we can head that off at the pass, which we do with practice, yeah, and then we build that new pathway yeah, and it's very important to understand, uh, that the new pathways have to be built in order for the old conversations to be dissolved, because if we think about our mind as a field, and then you see that the field, there's some paths that have been traveled and there's no more grass in the field because we've been traveling down that path for a while.

Speaker 1: 27:57

Those are the limiting beliefs, disempowering conversations, the conditioning, all of that, and so, in order for us to really let go and disconnect and dissolve those, we have to take that breath and shift and go down a new path, and that's where we create new neuropathways, and that's neuroplasticity that you were talking about is creating new neuropathways in the brain, so that then the brain can go. Oh okay, wait a minute, this side makes me feel better than this side, so I'm going to go down this side, right, and so it takes practice, it does take practice, it does Committed to your own growth and evolution.

Speaker 3: 28:37

And commitment and willingness. You have to say, you know, yeah, I'm done, I'm done, just done. And it takes a leap of faith. It does. It takes stepping over your fear or through it or wherever you want to do around it, whatever you got to do, but there's always fear. Fear is underneath so many things that stop us from being who we truly can be and maybe are meant to be.

Speaker 1: 29:04

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3: 29:06

Fear is so corrosive.

Speaker 1: 29:08

Fear is the number one emotion that trips us up in life and in business. It makes things up in our head that are not real. Unless you're in a life or death situation, you should have no business being afraid.

Speaker 3: 29:23

Right, right. I mean there's natural fear. I think of it as a real tiger and a paper tiger and our brains evolved to say real tiger, yeah, get the heck out of dodge stand still hide under a bush. But when it's a paper tiger and our brain thinks it's real, then we're stuck in that kind of stasis. And so what your coaching does and what I do with my clients is say let's get you out of that stasis and recognizing when you're in that place and recognize it for what it is. You know, it is not real.

Speaker 1: 29:57

Yeah, yeah, false evidence appearing real, that's fair, exactly yeah. Yeah, yeah, and there's another one F everything and run yeah and there's another one F everything and run, run, run, run that one.

Speaker 3: 30:11

Yeah, yeah, try to be careful not to swear, because people who know me know that I usually don't hold back. But I don't know, maybe this is a polite podcast. At any rate, I absolutely love talking to you. Thank you so much for sharing yourself with us. Thank you for having me. Yeah, it's been great, and Michaela's stuff will be in the show notes if you want to reach out to her and find out a little bit more about what it's like to be a business leader or work in a place where magic can really happen. You know, happiness, magic, miracles, yeah.

Speaker 1: 30:50

Yeah, yeah, it's um, you know it's an amazing uh place to be and it's an amazing journey, even with. You know the ups and downs and the challenges. So we'd love to, yeah, to connect with anybody. Uh, you can find me on Facebook the links that Jamie has as well. Anybody is interested to knowing what their emotional vibration is. That's also, I think, one of the links that's going to be in the show notes, so we'd love to speak with anybody. Yeah, awesome, I'll see you next time.